tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7923383190687664065.post3571658107882362400..comments2013-08-20T18:09:43.695+00:00Comments on Syrian in London: Mothers & DaughtersUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7923383190687664065.post-71510864797217897732007-12-01T01:46:00.000+00:002007-12-01T01:46:00.000+00:00My dear SiL,I agree entirely... Well said...My dear SiL,<BR/>I agree entirely... Well said...The Syrian Brithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13918783557049896806noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7923383190687664065.post-66026656147974110182007-11-30T22:11:00.000+00:002007-11-30T22:11:00.000+00:00SBGod rest her soul, I hope that me and my better ...SB<BR/>God rest her soul, I hope that me and my better half have the same kind of relationship with each other’s parents. It's not an easy task to build such a relationship and I think that a lot of things that are said and done in the early days of any such relationship have a profound effect on how this relationship will turn out to be. <BR/>Immaturity by one party or both and the lack of sensitivity to the parents feeling (which is usually masked at that stage) will just spread a negative shadow over the future. On the contrary, being extra attentive at this stage, both by parents and the 2 people involved would serve to build a strong platform for the future.Syrian in Londonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10268306734454402802noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7923383190687664065.post-26339815034866485272007-11-27T23:00:00.000+00:002007-11-27T23:00:00.000+00:00Abu Fares,It's more subdued between the father in ...Abu Fares,<BR/>It's more subdued between the father in law and the son in law because at the very beginning the father has told his future son in law that he will be cast out of existence if he hurts a hair on his daughter's head and as long as the daughter is happy, her father is content... <BR/>I think the father i.l. and son i.l.'s relationship is that of mutual respect and understanding and is by far less emotionally involving as that between the mother in law and the daughter in law.<BR/>I might be mistaken; I’m just describing personal observation in this!<BR/><BR/>Wassim<BR/>None of us are in such position, not at least we're the parents in question and we've seen this from both sides...<BR/>Choosing someone like his mom, brrrrr scary!Syrian in Londonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10268306734454402802noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7923383190687664065.post-19891726928272823562007-11-27T22:33:00.000+00:002007-11-27T22:33:00.000+00:00Mmmmm..Very interesting..To start with, and to fol...Mmmmm..<BR/>Very interesting..<BR/>To start with, and to follow on from where Abu Fares has taken the discussion, I start by saying that my late mother-in-law (God bless her soul) saw in me another son, and I in her a second Mum.. I loved her dearly, and I am still grieving her loss..<BR/>My wife gets along very well with both my parents.. In fact, I have little doubt that if I did anything to hurt my wife, they will both descend on me like the proverbial 'tonne of bricks'!!.. However, my Dad does have a particular soft spot for my wife, a bit more, perhaps, than my Mum... and that is reciprocated, in similar levels..<BR/>As for future sons-in-law, I am sure I will love them and treat them like my own son, so long as they treat my daughters decently..<BR/>I guess, the bottom line is, your love for your in-laws is an extension of your love to the 'link' with them...The Syrian Brithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13918783557049896806noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7923383190687664065.post-6930870481997769062007-11-27T15:52:00.000+00:002007-11-27T15:52:00.000+00:00It's tricky to be honest. Not that I'm in a positi...It's tricky to be honest. Not that I'm in a position to impart any wisdom on this matter.<BR/><BR/>Reminds me of the joke where a guy kept trying to find a bride his Mum would like. Finally he found one who was like his Mum in every aspect. When he brought her to meet his parents it was his Dad who didn't like her.Maysaloonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06826378383173206624noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7923383190687664065.post-45845133131428803072007-11-27T11:28:00.000+00:002007-11-27T11:28:00.000+00:00I just wonder why this eternal conflict is much mo...I just wonder why this eternal conflict is much more subdued between the father-in-law and the son-in-law. Even in our patriarchal culture, men seem to get along much more smoothly. I wonder at times what my real feelings toward my future son-in-law would be. I wouldn't think along the line that I shaped my daughter than the (sob) took her away from me although I have more reasons to do so.<BR/>Men might be more competitive and aggressive in all aspects of social life but not this one.<BR/>Then you also have to remember that the father-in-law / daughter-in-law relationship is, in general, a much more successful, smooth and serene relationship than the mother-in-law / son-in-law association.<BR/>For some reason (IN GENERAL) women are more aggressive and less reasonable in this social exchange.<BR/>How about it SiL and dear readers???Abufareshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05528721595411746558noreply@blogger.com